Sometimes it feels like my brain is chewing information in a back corner and pondering stuff and it needs time. Also events around you unfold and a clear path might reveal.
Last week I had a simple decision to make. I travel back and forth to Paris quite a lot. A task in Paris this Monday 4th emerged and could be another occasion to go. Or not. It took me 3 days to decide. My first instinct was to go. A life-long custom of attending everybody’s needs. Thank God I didn’t act on this first instinct. It took me time to clarify that this was not an important task, that I needed to be sparse with how when and with whom I spend my energy. Eventually I decided to stay put and said I couldn’t be there… It was not confortable to stay in this limbo for 3 days. Inner critic was hard at work: you should decide yet! You should know clearly what to do with your life! Wait more and tickets will be unaffordable! That’s so you waiting waiting and wasting money in the process… and it can go on and on.
Exhausting isn’t it?
So yes! I love your idea of embracing uncertainty.
Cheers! A happy Sunday for the “Love Mondays” guy.
It is absolutely exhausting and I don't want to get into that state again. It will because it's a long term process, but I'll try to follow this framework to reduce the frequency of those stuck-between-two-chairs moments.
Hi Frank!
I like the “embrace uncertainty” part.
Sometimes it feels like my brain is chewing information in a back corner and pondering stuff and it needs time. Also events around you unfold and a clear path might reveal.
Last week I had a simple decision to make. I travel back and forth to Paris quite a lot. A task in Paris this Monday 4th emerged and could be another occasion to go. Or not. It took me 3 days to decide. My first instinct was to go. A life-long custom of attending everybody’s needs. Thank God I didn’t act on this first instinct. It took me time to clarify that this was not an important task, that I needed to be sparse with how when and with whom I spend my energy. Eventually I decided to stay put and said I couldn’t be there… It was not confortable to stay in this limbo for 3 days. Inner critic was hard at work: you should decide yet! You should know clearly what to do with your life! Wait more and tickets will be unaffordable! That’s so you waiting waiting and wasting money in the process… and it can go on and on.
Exhausting isn’t it?
So yes! I love your idea of embracing uncertainty.
Cheers! A happy Sunday for the “Love Mondays” guy.
Hey Sybille, thanks for your kind words!
It is absolutely exhausting and I don't want to get into that state again. It will because it's a long term process, but I'll try to follow this framework to reduce the frequency of those stuck-between-two-chairs moments.
Let's make more bad decisions and go with them!